How to Deal with Haters: Strategies for Staying Positive and Growing Stronger

Haters are inevitable when you're striving for success. In this episode, we dive deep into proven strategies used by powerful individuals like Elon Musk, Gary Vee, and Grant Cardone to handle negativity and thrive in the face of criticism. Learn how to use hate as fuel for your personal growth, stay focused on your goals, and maintain a positive mindset no matter what.

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[00:00]: Intro

[00:15]: Why Haters Hate

[00:56]: How to Escape the Matrix

[01:45]: Accepting the Hate (The Price of Success)

[02:32]: Be Dangerous - Break the Rules

[03:08]: Consistency & Progress Drives Envy

[03:23]: Haters Label You. Understanding Bias

[04:05]: Information War & Combatting Fraud

[07:52]: Envy, Resentment, & Pain...

[09:30]: How to Respond to Hate - Final Remarks

If you want to level up your game and turn haters into motivators, this episode is for you! 🔥 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and comment on how you handle your haters!

Ever wonder why success seems to attract negativity and haters? In this eye-opening episode, I share my personal journey through the waves of criticism I faced when my book was published, illustrating how negativity is often a sign that you're breaking societal norms and making strides towards success. We dive into the psychological traits that fuel such negativity, exploring how psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and narcissism play a role, especially for those daring to be different, like entrepreneurs. We also tackle broader societal concerns, from questioning the authenticity of social media to examining the trustworthiness of systems that govern our lives, urging you to hold firm to your goals despite external obstacles.

Inspired by the wisdom of Charlie Munger, we unravel the power of envy, even among the wealthiest, and discuss strategies to rise above it. This episode offers two powerful approaches to handling jealousy and negativity: first, by evaluating criticism for any truth and addressing it to disarm naysayers; and second, by shutting out the noise and focusing on your personal trajectory. The key is to keep moving forward and stay true to your path, using envy and negativity as stepping stones to propel your growth and success. Tune in to transform adversity into your greatest ally.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Dealing With Haters and Success
• 9:06 Defeating Haters and Achieving Success

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Let's do another episode about the haters. I always hated it. I hate you Haters, gonna hate. Haters mean that you're actually making some kind of progress in whatever goal you're chasing. Typically it means that you're getting to somebody. Usually you're making them feel bad about themselves and that's why people will go to hate. Whether it's a hateful comment, whether it's some kind of hateful connotation towards your character, defamation of your character lies, but the truth is people who leave negative comments they've done studies have high traits of psychopathy, machiavellianism and also narcissism. Okay, three horrible traits, the dark triad, essentially. But high levels, high numbers for all of those different traits.

Speaker 1: 0:59

So haters are going to come and go On your journey to success. You have to get used to the fact that people aren't going to want to see you win when you go outside of the matrix. What does it mean to go outside of the matrix? What does it mean to have your own system to build your own thing? See, one thing that you're going to see as an entrepreneur is that people will call you a failure in the beginning when you're not successful, when you're not making six figures a year, when you're not, you know, driving nice Lamborghinis. So a hater is essentially going to attack your character. They're going to attack who you are. They're gonna attack your project. They're gonna attack your personality, everything you're building. And so people who do that, we call them haters, people who essentially will leave negative comments in this comment section. Just nasty stuff, right, the people who will follow your content. They'll engage in your content just to write something nasty. But the truth is, is this such a bad thing to have engagement? No, but it can be bad to have bad engagement at all. Right, but at the end of the day, you have to be controversial. At the end of the day, you have to have your own opinion. Everybody's going to hate what you want to say.

Speaker 1: 1:56

Sometimes You're not going to be perfect, because sometimes the things you do, you're going to get backlash for it. For example, I wrote a book. I got backlash from other police officers. They thought I shouldn't have written the book. Listen, you know what. We're all going to die one day. Does it really matter whether or not I wrote a book? And it is what it is Now? If you read my book, you'll find that mostly the book is about business, entrepreneurship, but also how I became a police officer and yeah, you know how I succeeded and how I failed. So it's about both and it's a self-help book. It's about my journey, it's about my experience, it's about things I've done, things I'm still going to do. You know, I wrote my book knowing that I was going to succeed in all of those things, because I know who I am. I have a self identity.

Speaker 1: 2:40

Most people don't know who they are. Most people they go to work, they listen to the boss, they wait for their chat to come every Friday or every other Friday and they just basically do whatever they're told. They just listen, they just play by the rules, even though, even if the rules completely go against their own religion, even if the rules go against what their family believes in, most will still follow the rules, because rules keep us in check. Now, where do the haters start to come? When do they start to come? When do the haters start to come? The haters are going to start coming when you're starting to really gain ground. So when you start to be consistent, when you start to actively gain a presence, when you start to grind so hard that you build some kind of following, or if whoever that hater is heard about you from word of mouth that tends to get to haters a lot.

Speaker 1: 3:29

What probably happened if you are experiencing a hater is you know they correlate you with some part of who you used to be, and that's the way a hater is. Haters are going to label you a certain way. Oh yeah, I knew this guy. This guy was like this years ago. Or I heard about this guy. He's doing this today. Or I heard about this woman, or I knew this woman when she was this age and she did this, and this is how she is today, even if I haven't talked to her in years. Is this moron number one? Put moron number two on the phone. That's why what are you stupid? See? That's the thing with human beings. We don't realize that we're all going through a different war. We're all fighting different battles.

Speaker 1: 4:12

Everything you see on social media is fake. Everything you see is fraud. Everything you see is completely a lie. It's just the way it is. It's where we live in, right? The elections that you think are so safe? Totally going to be. So I tell you.

Speaker 1: 4:24

I was sitting in an election uh, security, election security meeting. I had judges, lawyers there, a few other police officers. We were talking about what to expect during the 2024 election and you wouldn't believe it. Yes, it's always been a law that you don't need drivers. You don't need a driver's license to vote. So they say but who are these illegal immigrants that are coming across the border, that we're just allowing to be registered? We don't know who they are, but we're just giving them a name, we're giving them a social security number, we're giving them all this stuff so that way they can basically just fill in a fake ballot or a fake affidavit. So that way the lawyers can basically just keep approving all these fake people who don't even live here, weren't even born here.

Speaker 1: 5:10

No-transcript Well, does that make it right? Isn't that a rule we should change? Maybe Isn't it weird that you can't have cameras inside of a polling center? Oh well, that would affect people's ability to vote Bull. What that does is allow election fraud to happen. What that does is allow for your tabulation people to essentially rescan ballots 30 times for each candidate or for whatever candidate they want.

Speaker 1: 5:41

Think about that for a minute. But you can't know about it. No cameras, no cameras inside the voting center. You know, if it wasn't for all those cameras that were inside some of those voting centers, we would have never found all of this fraud happening in 2020. And yes, if you want to say there was no election fraud in 2020, you're entitled to your wrong opinion, but the fact is there was. The fact is, there absolutely was election fraud. You can go on TwitterX right now. You type it in election fraud, you'll see everything you need to know All the ballots that were thrown away, all the ballots that were burned, all the ballots that were ripped up by anti-Trumpers, all the ballots that were not accounted for, that essentially got scanned a million times for one candidate Biden.

Speaker 1: 6:26

All the pipes that burst, the cybersecurity attacks, the power outages, all the things that you could see in 2024 that might delay the time of an election being fully counted. Yeah, so this is what they were talking about at this election security meeting. They were talking about how, oh yeah, you can expect, you know, you might see hazmat events, you might. And, yes, somebody is going to say well, brendan, this is they're only talking about things that might happen. They're just trying to prepare for what could happen. Okay, but there's no preparation. From what I heard, in that they had no plan for anything, and it was these horrible answers. It was like, oh yeah, if you happen to see a ballot box smoking and if you happen to see that somebody throws a match in the ballot box, don't worry about it. You can't do nothing because at the end of the day, don't worry about it. You can't do nothing because at the end of the day we don't have the ballots watermarked. But you know, we'll just timestamp it from the time they turned in their ballot and from the time. But it's like, if they're burned, how do we know who it is? So if somebody fully burns all the ballots in a ballot box, then that's just done. What if it's in a high? What if it's in a big demographic area for Trump supporters or come, all voters even? But I assume that the people who are going to try to steal this election again are going to be Democrats. Just saying All I know is how much you want, how much do you love your country?

Speaker 1: 7:50

As a police officer, I sat in this room. So haters, your haters should be your number one motivators. If your head's in the right place. You need to look at your haters and understand that they're probably going through a lot of grief, a lot of pain, a lot of negative things in their own life and they want to take it out on you and they want to bring you down. So that should motivate you and it should also make you understand that person more like wow, this person is so damaged and so hurt by whatever it is. I said no, no, no, no, no. That person is so hurt because of something going on in their own life, something going on in their own mind, and that's the truth behind a hater. That's why it doesn't pay to be a hater. It's not really necessarily beneficial to be a hater. Haters don't really win life. See, haters tend to stay right where they're at and pretty much they'll be like that forever.

Speaker 1: 8:39

The thing about a hater is, because of all the hate they have, they don't have motivation. They don't have intrinsic motivation, they don't have focus. So they get so wrapped up in everybody else's life, so everybody else's goals, whatever. It might be that essentially they just want to tear yours down when they see you doing everything they wanted to do perhaps. But there's many different reasons, right? Sometimes somebody's life might just suck so bad that they just want to take it out on you.

Speaker 1: 9:06

Usually that's the case and then other people just downright might be envious. I mean, this world is driven by envy, according to Charlie Munger. Charlie Munger is the one who said it and I thought it was really genius. Charlie Munger said I've made all of this money. I've seen people who have all the money in the world and they have no reason to be unhappy, but they're still unhappy and they're still chasing all of this extra wealth. Why Envy? They want more. Everybody always wants more. So there's always somebody jealous of you. There's always somebody that's going to try to hate on you.

Speaker 1: 9:36

The way you should respond with hate is to think about what they said and ask yourself is it true? And if it is true, then you should address it and be like, yeah and yeah, you told the truth about me, and. And that'll throw them off their guard. Or the other way you can handle haters is by simply just winning Be successful, focus, ignore it. Or the other way you can handle haters is by simply just winning be successful, focus, ignore it, ignore the hate and stay in your own lane, because the haters are going to stay behind you. Those people don't evolve. So, ladies and gentlemen, that's how you get past the haters. Stay prudent, stay powerful, stay wealthy you.